Valentine's Day

Valentine is about love, romance and twosomes. Yet, it is next to impossible to have an intimate Valentine's Day when your relationship is subject to resentment and conflict. It is like going for dinner with an upset stomach. Again this year, thousands tolerate their relationships, rather than enjoying them. Thousands are at the brink of break-up and just as many will head for the divorce court. Single again, thousands will walk away from the all-you-eat-buffet of dating companies with empty stomachs. Despite this sad state and plenty of how-to advice, we ignore the true catalyst for powerful change: Improving Our Characters! Our relationship and dating affairs are out of control and need critical attention NOW!

To Love Forever

Emotionally healthy men and women almost always share their lives with lovers whose happiness is crucial to their own fulfillment -- even if they failed to understand the reciprocal nature of mutual satisfaction while they were young. In our youthful years we may be so filled with such intense sexual desires that we forget it really does take two to tango successfully for any length of time. If either lover feels deprived, the music soon loses its ability to charm us. As we learn to love a person deeply, we want both to be personally satisfied -- while also becoming a pleasing lover. Our sexual pleasure remains second rate unless the lover becomes a full partner in the intimacy. Of course, some neurotic persons use sex in a power play for ego benefits that have little to do with love. We insist -- all psychospiritually healthy women and men want to please the sweetheart with whom they share physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy. Anything less is selfishness -- is prima facia evidence that one is still an emotional adolescent, grasping what he or she can in a short term relationship. Sexual selfishness and the potential for abuse that follows is always the result of one's serious emotional and spiritual failures.

Relationship Advice: 3 Kinds of Love

There are three kinds of love:

love as a feeling, love as a decision/choice, and love as an action.

The confusion of these three kinds of love is the cause of much needless pain and suffering.

In an attempt to clear up this confusion, let's take a closer look at each of these three kinds of love.

Love as a feeling.

Oh, what a feeling. Let's face it, falling in love feels great. So does being in love. Throughout the centuries, poets, writers and singers have all extolled the glories of being in love.

Only problem is that it doesn't last.